As you walk down the street in Japan, you see a girl that you think is cute. You smile at her, and she smiles back. You start to feel butterflies in your stomach, and you can’t help but wonder if she likes you too. You decide to approach her and strike up a conversation. The two of you chat for a while, and you soon find out that she is indeed interested in you. You exchange numbers and agree to go on a date. As you walk away, you can’t help but feel grateful that you took the opportunity to talk to her. You may never have known what could have been if you hadn’t taken the leap and just gone for it.
You start to talk to her and she seems interested in you too
You spot her across the room and instantly feel a stirring in your chest. She’s the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen.Mustering up all of your courage, you walk over to her and strike up a conversation. It quickly becomes apparent that she feels the same way about you. The two of you chat for hours, swap stories and secrets, and laugh until your sides hurt. By the end of the night, you know that this is someone special – someone worth pursuing. You exchange numbers, say goodnight, and make plans to see each other again soon. This could be the start of something wonderful.
She asks for your number and you give it to her
You’re out at a bar with your friends when you see her. She’s tall, blond, and beautiful. She walks over and starts talking to you, and you can feel the chemistry between you. She asks for your number, and you readily give it to her. You exchange a few more words and then she’s gone. You head back to your friends, feeling on top of the world. You can’t wait to see her again.
But then you start wondering: what if she doesn’t call? What if she was just being friendly and isn’t actually interested? The doubt starts to creep in, and you start second-guessing yourself. Did you say the right thing? Did you do something to turn her off? The more you think about it, the more nervous you become. Eventually, you decide that there’s nothing you can do but wait and see. So you put her number in your phone and try to forget about it. But every time your phone rings, your heart skips a beat in hopes that it’s her.
She texts you later that night and says she had a great time talking to you
You’re lying in bed, just about to drift off to sleep when you hear the familiar ping of a text message coming from your phone. You grab it and see that it’s from her. She says she had a great time talking to you and she hopes you feel the same. You can’t help but smile as you type out a reply. You tell her that you had an amazing time and you can’t wait to do it again soon. You hit send and then put your phone back on the bedside table. As you start to drift off to sleep, you can’t help but think about how wonderful it is to have finally found someone who you can truly connect with.
You go on a few dates with her and everything seems to be going well
You go on a few dates with her and everything seems to be going well. You have a lot in common, you laugh at the same things, and you enjoy each other’s company. But then, just when you think things are getting serious, she pulls away. She becomes distant and starts making excuses not to see you. It’s frustrating, but it’s also confusing. What happened? It’s possible that she was simply not ready for a relationship. She may have just come out of a long-term relationship or she may be busy with work or school. Or, there may be something else going on in her life that’s preventing her from being able to commit to a relationship. Whatever the reason, it’s important to respect her decision and give her the space she needs. If she comes back, great. If not, that’s OK too. Either way, you’ll be better off for having respected her wishes.
One day, out of nowhere, she breaks up with you via text message
The day started like any other. You woke up, got dressed, and went to work. But then, in the middle of your work day, you received a text message from your girlfriend. At first, you thought there must be some sort of mistake. But as you read the message, it quickly became clear that she had indeed ended things between you. She didn’t give any explanation, or even say goodbye. She just said that she was done and that was that. You’re not sure what you did wrong, but suddenly you’re single and feeling Alone. It’s going to take some time to get over this break-up. But eventually, you’ll find someone who loves you for who you are and won’t just end things via text message without any explanation. Until then, though, you’ll just have to keep your head up and keep moving forward.
Ouch. That hurts. We’ve all been there before, and it sucks every single time. Some lighthearted advice for anyone who finds themselves in this situation: take a deep breath, pour yourself a glass of your favorite beverage, eat some ice cream (or cake, or cookies), and watch a feel-good movie. You’ll get through this! And next time, maybe don’t give your number to a girl you just met on the street in Japan…